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December 26, 2008


Kathy N

Naw. They need to figure it out for themselves at some point, if you want it to continue past the years when you can influence them. You are the positive role model for giving. Just verbalize that and why you do it (best you can) and let him grow into how he wants to be. Can't help the dad stuff...I still buy all the gifts for the ex's family, because he won't, but now the kids help me. I don't force the kids into giving, but they get into the mood/spirit/whatever by watching me and helping me and feeling good when they give the gift and get a positive response. If they want to make something, I make sure they have supplies, and if they want to buy, I take them out to buy. I don't push it AT ALL. May take a few years...good luck :-)

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